Decisions To Be Made During Divorce
Because family law is so stringent and stipulative sometimes, common bitter disagreements in divorce process can result in terrible legal quagmires. Therefore, it’s so imperative that a qualified divorce introduce the aspect of law in a divorce process to avoid problems with the law.
In most cases, there are very serious decisions to be made in contested divorce; so austere that they can cause massive disagreements especially if there are children or property involved. This is the case because a divorce is a very emotional as well as tough psychological matter that affects the divorcees a great deal.
Why a Divorce Attorney is Key to Successful Divorce Process
Some of the basic decisions to be made during a divorce process include: who between the two will take the legal custody of the children, what parenting plan must be prepared; who will pay for child support; what are properties to be shared; in what manner must they be shared; how will the cost of educating the children be shared among several other decisions. There is a lot of confusion as to what should be done in any case. It’s only a divorce who can help divorcees understand what’s required of them.
Making the Decision
Making a decision for any of these questions is a matter of life commitment. It therefore must be approached and trended very carefully. There shouldn’t be fights or insults in the process of divorce of which they normally erupt. Everything should be done in a mature, clever manner. Despite all this, there is normally a method stipulated in the law and only a divorce holds the papers where this law is written.
Disagreements normally happen during divorce because neither side wants to concede defeat; there is lot of selfishness when it comes to sharing property and responsibilities. One party could be overly biased and that is why a neutralizing party must intervene. This is the divorce lawyer.
Enter divorce lawyer
A divorce lawyer is knowledgeable when it comes to matter of divorce. He will help you make decisions as well sensitize you on what you should avoid in order not to attract any legal penalty.
It is however not always that you and your spouse must quarrel when it comes to divorce. You also could be ignorant of what you should do with your children. A divorce attorney will allow the conversation take place soberly by having to mediate the talks. He will chip in one or two precautions about what you should be wary about.
But on the other hand is a case of one spouse running away from responsibilities, of which this is rare, divorce lawyer will help the other spouse record a statement with legal authorities. This will be used to track down the hiding spouse.
Without a divorce, one spouse will be left with a huge burden of raising the kids. In most cases however, a divorce lawyer will mediate the discussions of how responsibilities and property is to be shared. He ensures that parties are content with the decision, they have understood the provisions of the law on the very matter and that no one shows signs of threatening the other in future.
Law of Attraction: The Importance of Feeling Good
“It’s really important that you feel good. Because this feeling good is what goes out as a signal into the universe and starts to attract more of itself to you. So the more you can feel good, the more you will attract the things that help you feel good and that will keep bringing you up higher and higher.”
–Joe Vitale,?Author and Speaker
The “Law of Attraction” states that like attracts like. Most Law of Attraction gurus state that there are four steps to manifestation:
* Write down what you want
* Repetitively visualize what you want as if it is already true, with much positive emotion. Do this many times daily for at least a year.
* Take actions toward your goal.
* Keep your frequency high by feeling goodIt is this latter step that I want to address in this article, as it is often the one that people have the most difficulty with.
Feeling good means that we need to attend to both our thoughts and our physical bodies. Our ability to have positive emotions and take positive actions come directly from our thoughts, and our thoughts are often deeply affected by what is going on in our physical body.
Our ego wounded self is deeply addicted to negative thinking, and to repeatedly thinking the many false beliefs that were programmed into us when we were growing up. Thoughts about ourselves, such as “I’m not good enough,” “I don’t deserve to be loved,” “Good things don’t happen for me, “I can’t do it,” make us feel anxious and depressed. Negative thoughts about events, people and outcomes can keep us continually stressed and depressed – the opposite of feeling good.
These negative thoughts and beliefs create a heavy, low frequency, which draws to us that which we don’t want.
In order to manifest what you want, you need to be thinking about what you want rather than what you don’t want. In order to feel good and have a high enough frequency to attract what you want, it is vitally important that you become aware of your self-judgments and judgments of others and consciously move into compassion instead.
What you put into your body and how you treat your body has a direct effect on your brain.
Food itself has either a high or low frequency. The highest frequency foods are fresh organic fruits and vegetables. The low frequency foods are foods that are sugared, packaged, canned, refined, devitalized, fried, or chemical/pesticide-laden. Low frequency foods not only draw energy from the body as the body struggles to digest them, but they cause the brain to lose focus and clarity, making it harder to consciously think positive thoughts.
Drugs and alcohol are also low frequency. While you might feel good for the moment, in the long run these substances backfire, causing numbness, anxiety, and depression rather than good feelings. If you tune into how you feel, you will discover that all low-frequency substances – food, drugs, alcohol – cause you to feel less than good for days after consuming them. Then you want more of the addictive substances to feel good again, creating a vicious circle. And the good feeling is not a true good feeling coming from your spiritual connection, so it is still in a low frequency and will hinder your ability to manifest.
Consistent exercise and enough sleep raise the frequency. It is difficult to feel good and have a high enough frequency to manifest when you are not getting enough sleep or exercise.
Feeling good means taking loving care of yourself on all levels, and this is what leads to your high frequency and ability to manifest.
Network Marketers Irrefutable Law #14 – The Law of Buy-In
Fourteen: The Law of Buy-In as It Pertains to Network Marketers
People Buy Into the Leaders, Then the Vision
Don’t Put the Cart First
The leader finds the dream and then the people. The people find the leader and then the dream.
People don’t at first follow worthy causes. They follow leaders who promote worthwhile causes.
You are the Message
Every message that people receive is filtered through the messenger who delivers it. If you consider the messenger to be credible, then you believe the message has value.
Once people have bought into someone, they are willing to give his vision a chance. People want to go along with people they get along with.
It’s Not an Either / or Proposition
You cannot separate the leader from the cause he promotes. It cannot be done, no matter how hard you try. It’s not an either/or proposition. The two always go together.
Leader + Vision = Result
Don’t Buy In + Don’t Buy In = Get another Leader
Don’t Buy In + Buy In = Get another Leader
Buy In + Don’t Buy In = Get another Vision
Buy In + Buy In = Get Behind the Leader
When Followers Don’t Like the Leader or the Vision, they look for another Leader
It’s easy to understand the reaction of people when they don’t like the leader or the vision. They don’t follow. But they also do something else: they start looking for another leader. It’s a no-win situation.
When Followers Don’t Like the Leader but they do like the Vision, they still look for another Leader
You may be surprised by this. Even though people may think a cause is good, if they don’t like the leader, they will go out and find another one.
When Followers like the Leader but not the Vision, they change the Vision
Even when people don’t like a leader’s vision, if they’ve already bought into him, they will keep following him. You often see this response in politics.
When Followers like the Leader and the Vision, They will get behind both
They will follow their leader no matter how bad conditions get or how much the odds are stacked against them.
As a leader, having a great vision and a worthy cause is not enough to get people to follow you. First you have to become a better leader; you must get your people to buy into you. That is the price you have to pay if you want your vision to have a chance of becoming a reality.
Buying Time for People to Buy In
If in the past you tried to get your people to act on your vision but were unable to make it happen, you probably came up against the Law of Buy-In, maybe without even knowing it.
As a leader, you don’t earn any points for failing in a noble cause. You don’t get credit for being “right”. Your success is measured by your ability to actually take the people where they need to go. But you can do that only if people buy into you as a leader. That’s the reality of the Law of Buy-In.